The most interesting part of the
text in Chapter 7, to me, was the outline of parenting styles, coupled with the
article “Parenting: The Lost Art?” It seemed to me that the 4 categories:
Authoritarian, Authoritative, Permissive, and Uninvolved summed up the
variations quite well. According to the text: “…authoritative parenting is best
for most children most of the time. Children with authoritative parents tend to
have higher grades and are responsible, self-reliant, and friendly. In
contrast, children with authoritarian parents are often unhappy, have low
self-esteem and frequently are overly aggressive.”
I used to work at a day care and
have seen children who come from a variety of parenting styles. It was usually
pretty easy to pick out the children that were more well-adjusted and adapted
to playing and sharing with other children. Although, at the time I didn’t know
the official name for the parenting style, I did know that they were doing
something right. Now I know they are Authoritative parents. One question that I
have is, what accounts for the different behaviors in siblings? I am not
talking about the differences that can be attributed to birth order, but where
one sibling is really aggressive and out of control, while the other is
completely in control. Can a parent have two different styles (for whatever
reason)?
The article shows parents that are
trying to be more like friends with their kids, and I have encountered children
like this as well. Generally they thought they were equal to adults. I
personally don’t think their parents are doing them any favors by being a
permissive parent. It sets the child up for failure later on. For all the
parents out there: what do you think? Is permissive parenting ever ok? Is it
easier? I don’t have children so I cannot speak from experience.
Thanks for reading!
I enjoyed reading chapter 7 because as I continued reading and watching the pod videos I was able to lable myself as an authoritative parent. Which I am very proud of my parenting style towards my daughter who is now seven. I was very surprised that this is the best parenting style for children most of the time, and I can understand because with me I began teaching my daughter right from wrong and consequences for her actions at two years old. She is now seven and very smart and nice has lots of friend, but one thing that I can see is that she is resopnsible for cleaning her own room and is very good at it without me having to ask her. I will say that my daughter and I have a great friendship we play together and do homework together but she know her place as a daughter and respects my word as her parent.
ReplyDeleteAs far as your question I belive that as a parent you need to know when to draw the line and when behavior is acceptable and when not. I don't think that permissive parenting is okay but, it is the easier way out. Being a good parent is hard work and I believe that permissive parenting will create out of control children. (this is only my opinion).
Thanks for reading my blog and your thoughtful reply! Congrats on your daughter, she sounds lovely :)
DeleteYou made curious why siblings can be complete opposites. My sister & I are completely different. I think it may be who are friends were younger and as we got older are different peer groups moved in different directions. It would be nice to know more details. Great job on your blog.
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